If you grew up in the Catholic church, you might feel a sense of disillusionment with religion. Maybe you're tired of the rituals, the guilt, and the strict rules. Or perhaps you've been hurt by the church's scandals or the hypocrisy of religious leaders. Whatever the reason, you're not alone. Many Christians are turning away from organized religion and seeking a more personal, authentic relationship with God. What does it mean to be a recovering Catholic and how can you prioritize relationships over religion?

1. Let go of guilt and obligation

One of the biggest challenges of leaving the Catholic church is often the guilt and obligation that comes with it. Growing up, you may have felt like you had to go to Mass every Sunday and follow all the rules or risk eternal damnation. But as you move away from religion and towards relationships, it's important to let go of that guilt and obligation. God doesn't want you to feel burdened or fearful - He wants you to experience His love and grace. So don't let the past hold you back from experiencing the freedom and joy that comes from a personal relationship with God.

2. Focus on intimacy with God

Instead of going through the motions of religion, start focusing on building intimacy with God. This means spending time in prayer, reading the Bible, and listening to His voice. You don't have to do these things in a specific way or at a certain time - the point is to cultivate a relationship with God that is personal and authentic. When you prioritize intimacy with God, you'll begin to see Him as a loving Father instead of a distant deity.

3. Find community outside of church

Leaving the Catholic church or staying can be isolating, especially if you're used to the sense of community that comes with organized religion. But you don't have to give up community altogether. Seek out other like-minded Christians who are also prioritizing relationships over religion. You might find them in online groups, small Bible studies, or even just among your friends and family. Sharing your journey with others can help you stay accountable and encouraged.

4. Embrace your spiritual journey

No two people are exactly alike, and the same is true for spiritual journeys. Your journey towards relationship with God may look different from someone else's, and that's okay. Embrace your own personal journey and don't worry about conforming to a specific set of beliefs or practices. As you grow in your relationship with God, you'll discover what works for you and what doesn't. Give yourself permission to be honest with God about your doubts, fears, and struggles, and trust that He will meet you where you are.

5. Keep an open mind and heart

Finally, it's important to keep an open mind and heart as you navigate your journey away from religion and towards relationships. Don't close yourself off to new experiences, insights, or perspectives. Even if you've been hurt or disillusioned by organized religion, don't let that stop you from seeking God and growing in your faith. Remember that God is greater than any one church or religious institution, and He will guide you towards truth and love.

As a recovering Catholic, it's natural to feel lost or uncertain about what comes next. But by prioritizing relationships over religion, you can experience a deeper, more meaningful connection with God. Let go of guilt and obligation, focus on intimacy with God, find community outside of church, embrace your own spiritual journey, and keep an open mind and heart. Above all, remember that your journey with God is a personal one, and that He loves you more than you could ever imagine.

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